QUARTER LIFE CRISIS

This puts it all into words perfectly. They call it the "Quarter-life Crisis". It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones.
What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself, what you want and do not want.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.

You are insecure and then secure.
You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life.
You feel alone and scared and confused.
Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you.
You love someone very much and cannot express it because of the fear of rejection. They get married to someone else and at that time, you don't understand why you couldn't express it because you are not a bad person to live with.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that almost everyone relates to it. Everyone have their best of times and their worst of times, trying as hard as they can to figure this whole thing out.

It's just to let you know that you are not alone in the state of confusion.

I'm a great fan of SOCRATES...are u?

In ancient Greece, Socrates was reputed to hold knowledge in high esteem. One day an acquaintance met the great philosopher and said, "Do you know what I just heard about your friend?"

"Hold on a minute," Socrates replied. "Before telling me anything I'd like you to pass a
little test. It's called the Triple Filter Test."

"Triple filter?"

"That's right." Socrates continued. "Before you talk to me about my friend, it might be a good idea to take a moment and filter what you're going to say. That's why I call it the
triple filter test.

The first filter is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what you are about to tell
me is true?"

"No," the man said, "actually I just heard about it and....................."

"All right." said Socrates. "So you don't really know if it's true or not. Now let's
try the second filter, the filter of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me about
my friend something good?"

"No...... on the contrary............... ."

"So," Socrates continued, "you want to tell me something bad about him, but you're
not certain it's true. You may still pass the test though, because there's one filter
left: the filter of Usefulness. Is what you want to tell me about my friend going to
be useful to me?"

"No, not really."

"Well," concluded Socrates, "if what you want to tell me is neither true nor good
nor even useful, why tell it to me at all".

This seriously makes me think...i think each one of us shld actually think bfore
we talk...theres smthng calld 'quality time' and 'quality talk'

we need'nt actuallly spend hours talking... but the few minutes we talk shld be useful/helpful/informative to others...
y not put in to practise frm now on....

They say 'a person who does many gud things to d society and is not always remembered for it...but one mistake from the very same person....volumes is spoken and it spread like wild fire'

why?
why is it that ... few ppl choose to talk abt the bad stuff rather thn d gud ones.....y do few ppl choose to remember/recollect repeatedly the ones which r not so pleasent..

i wonder if anyone cld answer it......hmmmmmmm.....

now this takes me to another Q : " how good is considered to be good...and how bad is really considered to be bad"...shall pen down more on this in the next blog!